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Your Child’s Development: What To Expect & How it Effects Nutrition

April 13, 2011 | In: Child Nutrition, Feeding Kids, Parenting

Did you know that child development influences how well your child eats? Picky eating, copying friends, independence, and risky behaviors are all normal behaviors during the course of childhood. Yes, NORMAL behaviors. Children move through these predictable and often frustrating phases as they grow into adulthood.

Yet, many parents find themselves embattled and struggling with their child, particularly with feeding and eating.

Messy eating is a normal part of child development

Why the Struggle and Strife?

Parents are missing out on information about typical childhood development. Not only are they missing this information, child development hasn’t been tied to eating behaviors or highlighted as a driving force behind eating. But child development is an important piece to the puzzle of feeding kids and kids’ eating.

Parents Need to Know What is on the Road Ahead.

And that’s what this series is all about: helping you get a handle on what to expect during each of your child’s developmental phases and most importantly, how it effects your child’s eating, the way you feed him, and his overall well-being.

In this series I will present each stage of child development, starting with infancy, moving through toddlerhood and school-age, and ending with adolescence.  I will move sequentially through the stages, helping you understand how each developmental stage builds upon the next. And I will show you the ties that bind development and eating so that you can figure out the mysteries behind food preferences, desires and behaviors.

School-age children are ready to learn skills in the kitchen

Why Am I Convinced this is Need-to-Know Information for Parents?

Knowledge provides insight. Knowing what to expect and what is normal during each development stage will help you respond to your child in a positive and healthy manner. For example, when you know a tornado is coming, you prepare your home, take cover and weather the storm in a relatively relaxed manner. This knowledge allows you to respond appropriately– this bodes true for feeding your child through the expected storms of childhood development, as well.

Knowledge provides opportunity. Knowing what to expect lets you grasp opportunities to teach and promote your child’s skills. Knowing where your child sits along the spectrum of development will help you decide when it is best to begin and advance cooking skils, how and what to teach about nutrition and allow for independent food choices. And it will also help you be realistic–if you expect your preschooler to bake a cake, you may be frustrated and disappointed. Likewise, if you hold back the school-age child who wants to bake, he may be frustrated with you!

Knowledge minimizes negative interactions. Sometimes, parents and children do struggle. In this series, I will also give you some pearls of wisdom for how to interact with your child in a developmentally-sensitive manner. All in the hopes of equipping you with foresight and knowledge so that you can remain level-headed and calm, and frustration can be minimized for all.

We all know what happens when you’re not prepared or don’t have a sense of what is normal…you may panic!  And panic can lead to rash decisions, knee-jerk reactions and negative interactions with your child. We want to keep things positive, especially around food and eating.

Navigate Nutrition Successfully.

This requires knowing your child’s development and how it is affecting their eating. While some of these normal developmental stages will still feel frustrating at times, it’s how you respond and handle them which is your barometer for success.

I hope you will feel equipped with your new knowledge: able to recognize that some behaviors are simply normal, handle the difficult ones with positivity… and be ready for the next barrage of behaviors.

Stay tuned for the first part of the series: Your Child’s Development: Infancy!

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12 Responses to Your Child’s Development: What To Expect & How it Effects Nutrition


Your Child’s Development: What To Expect & How it Effects Nutrition | CookingPlanet

April 13th, 2011 at 9:55 am

[...] Your Child’s Development: What To Expect & How it Effects Nutrition [...]


Ashley Rosales, RD

April 13th, 2011 at 10:11 am

Thanks Jill for shedding light on this important topic. Even as a dietitian I still find myself questioning my approach and how to handle these very unfamiliar stages of development. I am so excited to read more! I can’t wait to read about the toddler “messy” eating stage…that’s where I’m at with my 16 month old son :-)


Tyrell Serafini

April 13th, 2011 at 2:23 pm

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April 13th, 2011 at 9:47 pm

Looking forward to following this! I have 2 picky eaters age 15mo. and 4 years.



April 14th, 2011 at 5:41 am

I hope you enjoy it and find it helpful!



April 17th, 2011 at 10:50 am

Can’t wait to read more! I was just letting my 8 month old daughter play in her oatmeal yesterday only to find that she started to feed herself while exploring the texture. And as an added bonus, ate better than she usually does. I’m really looking forward to learning more as I think we’re at the tipping point of solid eater vs. picky eater.



April 18th, 2011 at 7:20 am

Great, Yvette! You have experienced the fun found in feeding little ones—exploration is the key to eating with this age group! Stay tuned and you will find some things to think about for your feeding future!


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